One of the problems with mainstream society is that people think no matter what your actual body type or size, you have to fit into (regardless of how flattering or unflattering) size 4 clothing to be beautiful. Never mind the fact that your body may not look good in a halter top or low-ride jeans; the media says that to be attractive you have to wear what the models do. How disillusioned so many are!
I've noticed lately there are a few more ads and campaigns geared toward women accepting their body rather than compelling women to reject and alter their body. Unfortunately the majority of fashion and media thought still stems from the latter—body rejection. Women get the message that you can't be pretty if you're not thin, which is a deep, ingrained, and vile lie. You can be plus size and still look beautiful—the trick is just finding the right clothes.
The first step in finding great-looking plus size clothes is coming to terms with the fact that it is okay to be plus size. (If you're unhealthy and plus size, increasing your fitness level and improving eating habits is the best way to feel better about your body and image.) I understand how being plus size can be discouraging, because before the most recent years, it was much more difficult to find trendy, fashionable clothing in plus sizes.
With the newer advertising and fashion trends, plus size is becoming more "acceptable" and mainstream in the Vogue world. There are more stores and online shopping sites targeting plus size shoppers and more brands are carrying chic plus size clothes (e.g. Talbots, Jessica London, Lands End, and Lane's Bryant) and they have the same clothes that you can find in size 2 in size 14. The options are ever-expanding and paving the way for more plus size women to become comfortable and confident in their bodies. (Remember though, that just because it's plus size doesn't automatically make it flattering—still use discretion!)
Today you can find great-looking plus size clothes in almost every store and wearing them with confidence is the best way to overcome the societal stereotype. Go out there and defy the media!